What are family obligations and where do you draw the line? I am going to go to the Netherlands for 5 or 6 days during my trip and there are many things to do and a finite amount of time to do them. I am going to stay a few nights with one cousin, but I never really thought about visiting all my other relatives. I have several relatives scattered around the country and only a handful I know. Some I have met once or twice at a family BBQ, but the rest I've never laid eyes on and now I am getting the impression that it's rude if I don't see them. It's become family politics and if I choose a few to visit I am somehow choosing favourites or saying one side of the family is better than the other. How do the actions of one person become the voice of a family?